Recovery from sex addiction







We’d like to share our solution with you…

Am I a

sexaholic ?

Here are 20 questions. Discover if you are a sexaholic

He or she has lost control, no longer has the power of choice and is not free to stop

You are not alone

We came to meetings and withdrew from our habit

The fellowship gave us monitoring and support to keep us from being overwhelmed, a safe haven where we could finally face ourselves

  1. We admitted that we were powerless over lust— that our lives had become unmanageable.
  2. Came to believe that a Power greater thanourselves could restore us to sanity.
  3. Made a decision to turn our will and our lives overto the care of God as we understood Him.
  4. Made a searching and fearless moral inventory ofourselves.
  5. Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to anotherhuman being the exact nature of our wrongs.
  6. Were entirely ready to have God remove all thesedefects of character.
  7. Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.
  8. Made a list of all persons we had harmed, andbecame willing to make amends to them all.
  9. Made direct amends to such people whereverpossible, except when to do so would injure themor others.
  10. Continued to take personal inventory and when wewere wrong promptly admitted it.
  11. Sought through prayer and meditation to improveour conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out.
  12. Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these Steps, we tried to carry this message to sexaholics, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.

Reprinted for adaptation with permission of Alcoholics Anonymous World Services, Inc.
Sexaholics Anonymous (White Book), p. 208

  1. Our common welfare should come first; personal recovery depends on SA unity.
  2. For our group purpose there is but one ultimate authority—a loving God as He may express Himself in our group conscience. Our leaders are but trusted servants; they do not govern.
  3. The only requirement for membership is a de- sire to stop lusting and become sexually sober.
  4. Each group should be autonomous except in matters affecting other groups or Sexaholics Anonymous as a whole.
  5. Each group has but one primary purpose—to carry its message to the sexaholic who still suffers.
  6. An SA group ought never endorse, finance, or lend the SA name to any related facility or outside enterprise, lest problems of mon- ey, property, and prestige divert us from our primary purpose.
  7. Every SA group ought to be fully self- supporting, declining outside contributions.
  8. Sexaholics Anonymous should remain forever non-professional, but our service centers may employ special workers.
  9. SA, as such, ought never be organized; but we may create service boards or committees directly responsible to those they serve.
  10. Sexaholics Anonymous has no opinion on outside issues; hence the SA name ought never be drawn into public controversy.
  11. Our public relations policy is based on attrac- tion rather than promotion; we need always maintain personal anonymity at the level of press, radio, films, and TV.
  12. Anonymity is the spiritual foundation of all our traditions, ever reminding us to place principles before personalities.

Reprinted for adaptation with permission of Alcoholics Anonymous World Services, Inc.
Sexaholics Anonymous (White Book), p. 208

  1. We are going to know a new freedom and a new happiness
  2. We will not regret the past nor wish to shut the door on it
  3. We will comprehend the word serenity
  4. We will know peace
  5. No matter how far down the scale we have gone, we will see how our experience can benefit others
  6. That feeling of uselessness and self-pity will disappear
  7. We will lose interest in selfish things and gain interest in our fellows
  8. Self-seeking will slip away
  9. Our whole attitude and outlook on life will change
  10. Fear of people and economic insecurity will leave us
  11. We will intuitively know how to handle situations which used to baffle us
  12. We will suddenly realize that God is doing for us what we could not do for ourselves

Alcoholics Anonymous, p.83/84

How do we define sobriety ?

Sexaholics Anonymous Statement of Principle

We have a solution. We don’t claim it’s for everybody, but for us, it works. If you identify with us and think you may share our problem, we’d like to share our solution with you (Sexaholics Anonymous, 2).

In defining sobriety, we do not speak for those outside Sexaholics Anonymous. We can only speak for ourselves. Thus, for the married sexaholic, sexual sobriety means having no form of sex with self or with persons other than the spouse. In SA’s sobriety definition, the term “spouse” refers to one’s partner in a marriage between a man and a woman. For the unmarried sexaholic, sexual sobriety means freedom from sex of any kind. And for all of us, single and married alike, sexual sobriety also includes progressive victory over lust (Sexaholics Anonymous, 191-192).

Passed by the General Delegate Assembly February 2010

The only requirement for SA membership is a desire to stop lusting and become sexually sober according to the SA sobriety definition. Any two or more sexaholics gathered together for SA sobriety according to the SA sobriety definition may call themselves an SA group. Meetings that do not adhere to and follow Sexaholics Anonymous’ sobriety statement as set forth in the Statement of Principle adopted by the General Delegate Assembly in 2010 are not SA meetings and shall not call themselves SA meetings.

Addendum to the Statement of Principle passed by the General Delegate Assembly on July 2016.

“I offer these suggestions neither as one man’s dictum nor as a creed of any kind, but rather as a first attempt to portray that group ideal toward which we have assuredly been led by a Higher Power these ten years past.”

Bill W. Grapevine article, April 1946.